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Everyone has failed in their life. More than once, more than probably hundreds or thousands of times. My mom used to say to me when I royally messed up that “you will never do that twice”. And that’s the way I grew up thinking. That when I failed at something it taught me never to do it again. Once I accepted my failures, I started to celebrate them. Celebrating the fact that I took a risk and tried something new.
This week we want to help change the way people think about failures. Positively seeing failures and learning how to celebrate them. As always, you can listen here or read on to see some of the highlights from our podcast.
Why Failures Are Better Than Success
Every day we wake up and do things that could fail as equally as they could succeed. The days we fail at something usually means we went outside of our comfort zones to try something new. Like taking a different route to work but then getting stuck in traffic. They might not always lead to success but they could lead to small victories like realizing if you had gone right instead of left you could cut three minutes off your travel time.
Failures are all around us - big and small. They teach us more than any individual success ever could. They teach us perseverance, patience and courage to try again. The first step to seeing the opportunities in failure is to start looking at them differently.
Instead of viewing failure as a negative, view it as:
- Failures Are A Redirection
You may have taken a detour from your original goal but that doesn’t mean you cannot find your way back to the path or take a new path.
- Failures Aren’t Fatal
Unless you do something dangerous, your failures are likely not fatal. So, stop viewing them like they're the end of the world. Brush yourself off and try again.
- Failure Is Feedback
Think of it as the universe giving you feedback. Something is telling you something and you need to listen to it. Even if it is not exactly what you want to hear, listening to it will lead you closer to your goals.
Now that you are looking at failures in a new way it’s time to perfect and learn from them. Here are my four tips for controlling your failures.
- Write Them Down
If something did not work, write down your steps. Look where you can make improvements and identify where things went wrong. Being observant to a problem is the first step to solving it.
- Brainstorm Them
When a problem arises at work, try to brainstorm with a team. When something goes wrong in your social life, try to connect with family or friends. Having more brains involved will likely help you see a bigger picture and identify why certain failures are happening.
- Learn From Them
Some of the most resilient people I know are the ones that have had more than their fair share of failures. Their confidence may plummet for some time but they have always gotten back up on their feet and tried again. Resiliency is one of the most important lessons you learn from failing. Lessons can be learned from every mistake we make. Don’t take your failures for granted. Embrace them and grow.
- Don’t Regret Them
Regrets hold us down and keep us from getting back up and trying again. Do not regret your failures. At that moment you thought it was the right move to make. Embrace that decision. Things have a way of working themselves out, we just need to keep trying.
- Is Failure The Same Thing As Defeat?
Hell no! Defeat is giving into the failure and letting it win. No path to success was ever meant to be a walk in the park. Olympians didn’t wake up one day and win gold. They worked for it. Don’t set yourself up to believe that there are people in the world that are handed everything, and everything they do is a success. It simply not true.
One very important thing to remember is that success is just one step. Once something is initially a success, it must continue to grow into a new success. If you stopped trying after every victory, you wouldn’t be living a very exciting life. So, embrace your failures, learn from them and never regret them because some of our biggest failures lead to our greatest successes.
That was it for this week’s podcast. Just as a reminder, our weekly podcast comes out every Tuesday on Youtube, Spotify, Google Podcast and Apple Podcast.
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